The Undeniable First Step To Influencing Others

Changing Your Frame:

Most people have been shocked to find how quickly I have risen the ranks of being an influential person who can charismatically command powerful people or even an entire audience at the same time. Although there are many simple tricks that you may put in your tool belt to instantly increase the results you are getting in interactions, I can honestly say that to consciously control all of these tools at the same requires a lifelong commitment to improving the way you interact with the people around you. Every master at the beginning has some combination of the following three things as he is training, REPITITION, A SYSTEM that he is repeating and an INTEREST that keeps him motivated along the way. True influence at its core level requires a command mostly of body language, then voice tonality then the words you say. Many magicians call this the “performance” aspects of their skills.

That being said, there is a way to shortcut a large chuck of your development….

Previously you have read about Frame Control and how that controls a large part of the interaction. Undeniably, before you may control the frame of another person you must be able to control YOUR frame. In other words, you need to be in complete control of the way you influence yourself. An example of this is self talk. When you talk to yourself, do you support your efforts or do you sabotage yourself with negative feedback of your actions. If you doubt yourself, everyone around you will eventually doubt you because your body language and voice tone is designed to reflect the feelings that you have inside. If your feelings while you are around others are negative then others will lead you because of your inability to lead yourself.
Luckily, this also works in the other direction. By this I mean if you have complete confidence in your ability and the joy of leading others, then others will find themselves magnetized towards your leadership, almost automatically. Because so many others give themselves negative feedback, your seemingly effortless engagement in the interaction will give them the sensation of, “I want what you’ve got.”
Here is the secret. This is called a hypnotic contract.
I [YOUR NAME] am in control
I love to lead others confidently
I have always been confidently in control
If and when you repeat this to yourself often it will cause a powerful effect on your subconscious.

I know your saying to yourself, “This sounds too simple. It couldn’t possible have a profound impact on my ability to influence others.” Don’t take my word for it. Say this to yourself before and after every interaction for a week and watch what happens. The most powerful way to impact the subconscious is through repetition. So, the more days you say this in a row the bigger effect it will have. Then, once you have a firm foundation of your ability to control your frame, you will have a firm foundation to build the influence arsenal of techniques that are about to come.